Wednesday, June 29, 2005

Beware of Getting Your Groove Back say I'm stunned is an understatement. To say that I feel a bit of embarrassment (and it's not even my drama) is, too. One of my literary sheroes, the chick who put the 'sister' in 'sistergirl' books--Terry McMillan is getting a divorce from her younger husband of almost 7 or so years. Turns out--he's gay.

Now, we all know about the DL (down low) and all that jazz, but this was a relationship that Terry 150% believed in, gushed about, wrote about in HOW STELLA GOT HER GROOVE BACK and then in the movie. Though she does live a fairly quiet life (she's admitted to being the mom that takes her son to soccer games and actually STAYS and watches him play), this relationship was a BIG thing then and even now because Terry will always be known as the author who wrote WAITING TO EXHALE and the author who penned a loose 'autobiography' in STELLA.

If I could, I would give a big hug to Terry for this drama. Not pointing fingers. Not saying anyone is a victim over the other (except for the kid--he can't help the situation he was brought into). Drama is Drama no matter how you slice it, and who wants THAT?

As soon as I read about the divorce and then heard specifics this morning on the radio, I thought, "I wish there was a way to really know if the person we're swooning for, thinking love was meant just for us for IS the one, true person for us."

But then, I remember that life is a game and if we knew the outcome of the game before we even, well, how fun would that be?

Keep your head up, Terry. This, too, shall pass.

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